This is a bummer, the only reason why this is difficult for people is the “physically attractive” choice. You could have the most wonderful person ever, but people really, really care about looks. And people wonder why everyone is constantly insecure about their appearances. When you love someone, their appearance means so little. Someone with a ravishing mind, and a sense of stability so you have that sense of reassurance and comfort is the most beautiful/sexy/glorious thing in the world. And no one gives a fuck because they want first impression eye candy.